DATING WITH CONFIDENCE

Are you wanting to date with more confidence and feel more in control because you know what you want and more importantly what the relationship of your dreams is going to feel like?  Then this Three Part Dating with Confidence series will assist you to begin to make changes in the way you believe, think and feel about yourself so you can begin moving towards fulfilling your love goal with confidence.

Confidence is the Biggest Attraction Factor

Confidence has been attributed to the greatest attraction factor for both men and women.  So let’s start by becoming clear about what confidence is. Basically confidence is being comfortable in your own skin – confidence reflects what you think and feel about your abilities.  Therefore, I know my worth, I know my life matters, I know how to promote my internal assets and more importantly I pursue my goals with passion and purpose.  Confidence is not about trying to be like others – confidence is accepting yourself as you are and allowing your uniqueness to shine. 

Know Your Worth

Knowing that your assets and contribution to the world are of value is one of the quickest and fastest ways to increase your confidence.   But confidence is not something we can fake because basically it is a feeling we give out to others – people feel what we think and believe about our self.  A common mistake many people make when they begin dating is that they focus on their external assets; their hair, going to the gym, losing weight, buying a new wardrobe, car, botox and the list goes on.  And although good looks, sexy clothes and a great body may attract men and women to you it is no guarantee that they will fall in love with you to establish a long term relationship. Research informs us that men do not necessarily fall in love with the prettiest sexiest woman and not all women fall for the best looking guy or the one with the most money. 

Tips to increase your Dating Confidence:

• Let Go of Past Relationships and Attachments.  This is one of the biggest reasons why people prevent the right person from finding them.  They are still emotionally attached to a past love/s.
  
  
• Make a list of your Strengths and your Qualities – become clear why you are a great catch and more importantly why you will no longer accept less than what you deserve.  Remember having something is not better than having nothing; in particular when it comes to love.
  
  
• Break Free From Your Comfort Zone – are you still doing the same thing to find the love of your life?  Then chances are high that you will keep attracting the same type of person or situation. 

• Re-evaluate and Then Re-create Your “Must-List”.  Once completed look honestly at your Must List and identify what qualities you have still not strengthened in yourself. Then take positive steps to become the best and greatest person you want to attract.  Remember like attracts like!
  
  
• Spend Time with Friends that Celebrate you.  The calmer and happier you are the more confident you will feel about attracting your special person.  The way people treat us directly impacts on our confidence and self-esteem.
  
  
• Think in Terms of Abundance – Expect the best to happen and believe that around every corner something new and special awaits you.

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