Karmic relationships are often intense, there is often a push-pull feel to them meaning they may have a breakup and makeup cycle to them, often we are obsessed with the relationship both when we are in it and when we are apart or in a breakup stage, there is usually a debt to be paid that is cyclic for example one person wants a commitment an the other doesn’t – the theme here is that both people are not agreeing on a crucial aspect of the relationship moving forward.
Physical – meaning ending the relationship and ensuring there is no more physical contact
Emotional – healing emotional imbalances, hurts, betrayals
Spiritual/Energy – removing all energetic attachments that often leave us still connected to the other person even though we a mile apart. This is often the most challenging of all leaving many people still thinking of them and not knowing why.
Part of your healing process will require you to identify patterns and themes of your behaviours where you’re surrendered your personal power to please or be with a person who was not contributing to your emotional well-being, safety, confidence, and the list goes on. You will need to identify your beliefs that were founded on romance and fantasy and not on reality that caused you to stay in a toxic relationship.
The role of the emotions in the release of karmic patterns is also critical if we are to successfully end the energetic connection. To finalise the energy exchange with the other person you will need to cut the cords and this can be difficult because often we find comfort in still feeling the other person’s energy as it allows us to not have to comfort of not having to face the reality that it is now over and we want to avoid the pain of feeling the hurtful emotions of finally letting go and moving on with our lives.
You are feeling stuck because the emotional energetic imprint of the karmic pattern still hasn’t been released – at least, not yet.
It is important that you take responsibility for attending to the emotional energetic ending of the relationship by no longer giving the other person permission to access your energetic emotional field again. That means that when you begin to think of them you take a deep breath and refocus your attention and affirm, I no longer give you access to my mind space – I release all attachments to our past connect and close all windows to my personal space.
Now consider the following two questions:
1. Am I willing to get to the core of this matter, so I release myself from this attachment completely and move on to living fully in my life and the present moment?
2. Do I still want to hold on to the connection because I feel obligated and bound to them and I believe and know there is something special about our connection?
If you chose question 1 and you are determined to leave the relationship in the past, then continue to read this blog as it will assist you to leave what feels to be impossible behind you.
This means that until now you have been treating the symptoms of this energetic connection by either trying to move on by distracting yourself with busy work, telling yourself that it must be love because you can’t get them out of your head and or energy field, you believe they love you and are good for your emotional wellbeing even though the attachment created a lot of nervous system chaos for you or you have been using emotional cord-cutting to move on but that method only works for a short time and then you have to do it all over again.
Please remember that If this was a healthy attachment for you then you would be feeling at peace, calm, and trusting that all is well in your world. But instead, the energetic connection and emotions you that you continue to feel because it could be making you feel guilt, worried, and anxious. If you are still attached to your exit is because you have still not found the cure to release yourself from this attachment and you believe you still have an obligation to the other person are bound to them or have unfinished business with them. Finding the cure to leave matters well and truly in the past means you that you will be void of any feelings or longing to be with your ex. Are you ready for this or are you still holding on?
The reason you could still holding on is that you are not seeing the truth of the relationship and that your actions while interacting in the relationship were not founded on principles of love but were more aligned to fear.